Saturday, June 23, 2012

Our Story Part 3

We ended the last post in this series with our engagement in May 2007. The months between that day and our wedding flew by, filled with all of the tasks that go into making the big day special. Beyond the cake tasting and dress fittings, there was finding the church, deciding on a place to live after the wedding (we'd kept separate residences before we got married), making and sending the invitations, and planning our honeymoon.

What would our wedding cake have been without butterflies?

In late October 2007, a wave of immense fires scorched Southern California, filling the air with ash and smoke. However, on our wedding day in early November, the air was filled instead with butterflies, released as we left the church and entered our life as a married couple. A friend read a beautiful poem as the butterflies were released and her words encouraged everyone to send us and the butterflies out into the world with good wishes. Our wedding was a simple, elegant ceremony and a small, but joyous reception. Friends and relatives from near and far attended, and we will always treasure the love we felt that day.

Yay! We tied the knot!!!

Our honeymoon took us back to London where we celebrated with friends, and then to Paris by way of the Channel Tunnel. It rained all that first day in the City of Lights, but we braved the wet and the wind to find a cozy little place for dinner on the Champs Elysees. We got to see many wonderful places in Paris, all mostly on foot since there was a transit strike on when we were there. Luckily Paris is pleasant city to walk in and we did just that, from our arrival at the Gare du Nord down to our hotel near the Eiffel Tower and across the city to Saint Chapelle, Notre Dame, and the Pompidou Centre. We enjoyed a couple of marvelous days in Paris and then soon after, we returned to London, then back to our new home in Tustin. 

Mitch in the Parisian rain.


Susan outside Notre Dame. Luckily the rain went away.

In the years since we got married, we've had a great time enjoying lots of adventures together and many of our experiences have included familiar favorites. We've told you in another post about our shared love of books. After we were married, Mitch started volunteering to help run a panel room at the LA Times Festival of Books. We've also had the opportunity to explore our local libraries and expand our knowledge of independent bookstores in Southern California. We've shared favorite childhood stories and characters, and have built up a list of literature we look forward to sharing with our child someday.

Mitch after a good day volunteering at the Festival of Books. 

During this time, we visited Mitch’s family in Massachusetts, and his mom has traveled to California a few times. We’ve celebrated birthdays and the 4th of July with Mitch’s uncle, aunt, and cousins in the Los Angeles area and with Susan’s family in Laguna Hills. Although we weren’t able to go together, Susan visited our friends in the UK in 2010, and we hope to visit them again soon.


Happy Birthday!


Susan cleaning the snow off the rental car in Holyoke, Massachusetts.

We’ve also visited some new places together and made new friends along the way. Some of the places we've been are near, like the Aquarium of the Pacific in Long Beach, and some are not so near, like San Luis Obispo and Montana de Oro State Park. We even took on the 2011 Bead Shop Hop together and traveled through six different counties all over Southern California. This odyssey took us as far north as Lancaster, as far east as Palm Desert, and as far south as San Diego.
 
The life aquatic with Susan and Mitch (at the Aquarium of the Pacific).

Heavy mist at Montana de Oro, but the view was worth it!
 
Wow, the hop covered a lot of Southern California!

These shared experiences have brought us closer and made us even more ready to be parents. As much as we have enjoyed our adventures, we feel that we’re ready to share our interests, values, and love with a new addition to our family. One wish we sent with the butterflies released on our wedding day was our hope to start a family as soon as possible. We began our journey to become parents in early 2008, but were soon reminded that life often unfolds in its own way and at its own pace. As is probably the case with many couples, we had assumed that it would just happen as soon as we were ready. However, our efforts to start a family didn't go as planned and we struggled with infertility.

We have always been open to the possibility of adoption. Towards the end of 2009 we began to seriously explore this as the best option for us to become a family. We started learning more about adoption and meeting new people who either had adopted or were in the process of adopting. In the future we'll write more about our adoption journey and some of the choices we've made along the way.


(Did you see the earlier parts of our story? Here's part 1 and part 2 if you missed them.)

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